What's a small guy to do

I'm an older gay man and I hate my small dick. I've hidden it for years. I was married to a woman for 25 years. After the divorce I met a man and we have been together for 22 years. From medical problems my husband has become impotent and has no sexual interest. This feeds into my insecurities about my dick. I'm too embarrassed to hookup and I won't change in a locker room.

I was able to satisfy both spouses. But both lost interest in sex with me. I'm the common denominator. My dick is adequate when hard, but when soft it is nearly nonexistent. I don't understand the guys who get off on humiliation. That's my biggest fear.

Do any of you have suggestions on how to at least accept my little guy?