is being polite a turn off?

so when a sub or anyone dms me i always try to be polite and respectful til i can understand what sort of arrangement they want. but sometimes in the middle of getting that info they stop answering?

i’ve had someone say im “too nice to be a domme”. am i suppose to be mean all the time? cuz that’s just not how i raised. like i know why we’re all here but until i get all the answers to my questions im gonna be polite lmao.

so is being polite weird? should i be a bit more aggressive when getting the info? or am i chillin 😭

edit: im neurodivergent if that matters, some asked in dm so i figured id add it here