Overcoming frustration with dating

32F here. Based in NYC. Relatively attractive, successful, intelligent etc. Need advice on how to overcome the frustration of dating. I know this is a universal experience and everyone has their own issues, so not looking for a pity party.

I’ve been dating and find about 30% of the time I go on a second date, 70% of the time I’m either rejecting or don’t get asked for a second date. After the second date, 50% of the time I’m rejected and 50% of the time i recject a third date. And, surprise surprise, the two men I was actually interested in potentially progressing with rejected me.

I understand that I don’t know these people, what they have going on in the lives, their previous experiences, how interested or serious they really were in the first place etc etc. But my heart wants what it wants. And I want to get married and start a family. Ideally with a man I’m excited about from the beginning.

I feel hopeless and frustrated that this massive part - starting a family - of my life is pretty much relied upon people and things I cannot control. I want my life to look a certain way and my partner to be of a certain way and honestly I’ll be lucky if i get it, but do we all get lucky or just a select few?

Any tips / words of wisdom would be appreciated. My mindset is really deteriorating around dating and i want to fix that